Preschool Education: Lesson plans, ideas, teachers, preschool, parents.

Autumn Book Recommendations!

Visit Our Sister Site: AskThePreschoolTeacher | PreschoolColoringBook | PreschoolPrintables


Alphabet Ideas
Arts & Crafts
Book Reviews
Bulletin Board
Calendar of Fun
Circle Time
Computer Related Reviews
Dramatic Play
Felt Board
Learning Letters
Music Review
Music & Songs
Parent Corner
Science & Sensory
Teachers Lounge
Theme Days
Theme Topics
Useful Recipes


Preschool Office

Ask The Preschool
Free Coloring Pages
Free Printable Pages
Submit an Idea

Mailing Lists
Update Newsletter
Preschool Edu List
Preschool Edu Parents
Preschool Themes


About Us

Writers Guidelines
Terms and Conditions
Privacy Statement
Buying Ad Space
Email Owner


Preschool Education Articles

After The Storm/ Helping Your Child Cope With Disaster


It is normal for children to be afraid, especially after a major storm. The fear may last for an extended period and is best dealt with by kindness and understanding on the part of the parents. Children should be encouraged to talk about their feelings and otherwise express their fears through play, drawing, painting, or clay/playdough.

Research indicates that children's fears vary according to age, maturity, and previous learning experiences. Four major fears common in children are: death, darkness, animals and abandonment. During a disaster, children would encounter three out of the four major fears. This will have an impact on their ability to cope for quite some time.

Another important aspect about children's fears is that fears may be intensified when adults back away from discussing the topic with children. Many families ban all painful topics from family conversation. Such strategies may intensify despair and negativity in children. To help children cope with fears, one of the most important steps adults can take is to talk with children.

Following a disaster some children may:

  1. Be upset at the loss of a favorite blanket, teddy bear, etc.
  2. Be angry. They may hit, throw, kick to show their anger.
  3. Become more active and restless.
  4. Be afraid of the disaster recurring. They may ask many times, "Will it come again?"
  5. Be afraid to be left alone or afraid to sleep alone. Children may want to sleep with a parent or another person. They may have nightmares.
  6. Behave as they did when younger. They may start sucking their thumb, wetting the bed, asking for a bottle, wanting to be held.
  7. Have symptoms of illness such as nausea, vomiting, headaches, not wanting to eat, running a fever.
  8. Be quiet and withdrawn, not wanting to talk about the experience.
  9. Become upset easily -- crying and whining frequently.
  10. Feel guilty that they caused the disaster because of some previous behavior.
  11. Feel neglected by parents who are busy trying to clean up and rebuild their lives/homes.
  12. Refuse to go to school or to child care arrangements. The child may not want to be out of the parent's sight.
  13. Become afraid of loud noises, rain, storms.
  14. Not show any outward sign of being upset. Some children may never show distress because they do not feel upset. Other children may not give evidence of being upset until several weeks or months later.


Talk with your child, providing simple, accurate information to questions.

Talk with your child about your own feelings.

Listen to what your child says and how your child says it. Is there fear, anxiety, insecurity? Repeating the child's words may be very helpful, such as "You are afraid that or "You wonder if the storm will come again tonight." This helps both you and the child clarify feelings.

Reassure your child, "We are together. We care about you. We will take care of you."

You may need to repeat information and reassurances many times. Do not stop responding just because you told the child once or even 10 times.

Hold your child. Provide comfort. Touching is important for children during this period. Close contact helps assure children that you are there for them and will not abandon them.

Spend extra time putting your child to bed. Talk and offer assurance. Leave a night light on if that makes the child feel more secure.

Observe your child at play. Listen to what is said and how the child plays. Frequently children express feelings of fear or anger while playing with dolls, trucks, or friends.

Provide play experiences to relieve tension. Work with playdough, paint, play in water, etc. If children show a need to hit or kick, give them something safe like a pillow, ball, or balloon. Allow a safe, open space for them to play, if possible.

If your child lost a meaningful toy or blanket, allow the child to mourn and grieve. It is all part of helping the young child cope with feelings about the disaster. In time, it may be helpful to replace the lost object.

If you need help for your child, contact a community resource, such as your Cooperative Extension center, mental health agency or clergy.

Reprinted with permission from the NC State University and A & T University Cooperative extension program

(C) Copyright 1997-2019 by Preschool Education

Please Visit Our Other Websites: Preschool Coloring Book, Preschool Printables, Ask The Preschool Teacher, Lehigh Valley Kids, The Perfect Title, and Holidays For Today.